June 6, 2021
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I love making out with my best friend. I can’t help but think that it is some of the bravest and most self-aware actions we can come up with. I feel like we are both making our way in the world. We are both doing things that we never thought we would do. We are both taking risks we never thought we would take.
When you don’t know what you’re doing, you don’t know what it is. Instead you go in circles, take what you can get away with, act and actually do something, rather than just pretend to try to do things you’re not going to do. It’s like you can’t even guess what you’re doing when you can’t do it.
You can’t really think like that. You don’t know what youre doing, you don’t know what it is. You dont even know who youre talking to. At least you dont know who youre talking to, what youre talking to, or what youre talking about.
It’s just your brain, and youre trying to get to the bottom of this, but it’s not really about what youre doing or what youre thinking. It’s the other half of the story, which is that all of your choices and actions may be different compared to the choices that youre making, so you cant really do a whole lot more than what youre actually doing. And that’s not true.
So to say that you should only be doing “one half of the story” is to completely ignore that the other half is about what you’re doing and what you’re thinking.
Gay sex is only one part of the story, the other half being the way you interact with other people. And that will be different in different people and different situations. If youre seeing someone in a bar and theyre trying to get you to come over to their couch, or trying to touch your hand, or showing you some sort of affection, then thats your choice, not theirs.
I have never been in a sexual situation where I was the one initiating it, but if I was, I think there is room for interpretation. I don’t think it has to be 100% sexual, but I think it should be safe and healthy for both parties. But again, I can’t speak for everybody, but I can say that in general, having sex with someone you’re not attracted to is a really uncomfortable situation that you should always try to avoid.
In the recent past I have been in some very uncomfortable situations where I was the one initiating it. I have also been in situations where I was the one that was uncomfortable, but I was the only one who was uncomfortable. I think that’s completely normal, and this is an example of why I am always trying to avoid sex with a guy I dont like, or a guy that I dont feel attracted to.
I think that gay people probably feel this way more often because of the way that we are taught to feel about our sexuality. Most of the adults that I know don’t think that gay people should be interested in any type of sexual activity (unless of course, it is a part of their religious beliefs) and we are taught to feel this way. I think people have a tendency to avoid anything that is uncomfortable.